The quest for true love

Many of us desire a long-lasting romantic relationship, but you don’t need a partner in life to be complete

Love is one of the most profound emotions known to human beings. There are many kinds of love, but, for most of us, it finds expression through a romantic relationship with a compatible partner. For some people, a romantic relationship is the most meaningful part of life and provides them with deep fulfilment.

In my experience, though, the ability to have a healthy, long-lasting relationship is not guaranteed. And I have observed that although personal relationships seem to be the first priority for many of us, hunting for love does not always attract the right partner. Why should this be? Perhaps it’s because our reasons for wanting to love and be loved may be unclear, or because we idealise love as the answer to everything. We tend to think: “If only I had someone who loved me, my life would be so much better.” That isn’t the way it works.

It’s a pity that people still tend to rely on the concept of “you complete me” – that without that special person you are not in fact complete. When you learn to love yourself, flaws and all, you become aware that you are complete just as you are. We’re made in the image of God, who never relied on another person to make Him complete.

Love yourself and spread the love this festive season.


Emilie Olifant is a disability activist, entrepreneur and motivational speaker. She is the director of the Emilie Olifant Foundation, an organisation that strives to address socio-economic issues experienced by people with disabilities. email:

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